A woman in her forties stops shining, and starts glowing.
She stops pining after status symbols and stops pining after people who do not respect her, and her glow begins to show.
When you arrive in your forties, you begin to allow all the hard work of the past years, begin to manifest and you de-stress. You realize that rather than chase after the person with 100,000 followers, remain with the people who give you 100,000 reasons to keep going.
In your forties, when someone insults you on WhatsApp, you delete the messages and treat them with indifference, instead of responding with the same venomous spite, because you are adorned with beauty, grace and strength and the glow keeps seeping through every pore of your skin.
Not every woman in her forties will reach this, because some still insist on chasing status symbols and hunting for people who will validate them. There are many accomplished women in their thirties and yet they too will only achieve the forties' glow when they have reached their forties.
A woman who reaches here, is like a rattlesnake that sheds off its old skin. It is an organic experience when you just allow yourself to be, and experience the right people walking into your life and your business ideas meeting the right connections.
The definition of yourself is built on years of prayer, tears, faith and finally, letting go. Those peers who have always insisted on not greeting you until you greet them first, just float away and you watch with glee, as they drift from your life.
And when you stop following certain people on social media, the actual physical reconnection is much deeper and richer, because your stories are heartfelt and not ego-driven.
Not every woman in her forties will realize this because some still define themselves by their titles, without which, they are desperate for frivolous things, like many people.
I know that being seated on the front pew every Sunday does not guarantee blessings, because I did that for many years. I know that spending an extra 10 minutes listening to someone, is sometimes more productive than posting quotes on a WhatsApp status.
My plans for my 48th birthday are not about how I want my friends and family to celebrate me, but how I want to celebrate myself.
Bless!
Beverley Nambozo Nsengiyunva,
47 going onto 48 ...106.
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